Velcro Shoes For Boys

Price: $47.95 $38.69

This shoes / sandals / boots style name or model number is KG633
Width: M
Material: Mesh Upper and Rubber Outsole

My son is 10 years old and he still wears pants with an elastic waist and shoes with velcro straps. When I was a kid, you couldn't buy clothes like this for a 10 year old. I think it's goofy, but my wife says to back off. I just want to go to the store, buy him a normal pair of lace up running shoes, a regular pair of Levi's jeans and a plain leather belt, put them in his closet and see if he wears them, even once and a while. Any other parents been in this position? What works? I'm not in a hurry for him to grow up, but tired of seeing him dress like he is still 5 or 6 years old.
Good answers so far. Glad everyone agrees with me. But what can I do to get him to wear normal clothes?????
He hasn't been bullied about this, but on the other hand, I looked at his class picture in hopes of showing him how other boys in his class dress and he's not the only one. So I gave up on that idea.

LOL - awww - it is soooo gooofy dad- cute tho' - he doesn't get teased at school or anything? Yeah, you know, I think he really needs to learn how to tie his laces quickly and he doesn't HAVE to wear a belt cus they have pants with that inside elastic button thing now, so jeans can stay up without a belt. I've heard middle school is rough and he may be in for a hard road...wearing velcro strap sneakers and elastic waist pants.

What to do about it - just buy him a pair of jeans at Old Navy, a "cool" graphic t-shirt (something hopefully he'd want to be into, even tho he's not) and a pair of easy tie sneakers like Converse - those are still cool - just put them in his closet...see what happens smile - you might just end up being the coolest dad ever, getting that sly smile from him at breakfast

Sorry, in addition - the boys in my kids class 4th are pretty clueless - so they don't notice each other and like one of the other posters said - it's easier in the morning to just have them put on the shoes (velcro) rather than waiting the 1/2 hour it takes for the kid to tie his lace securely - but they gotta learn - again - middle school...from what I hear - it's brutal

2011-01-02 20:12:41 by Jason C

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I work in a daycare part time and I have a four year old boy. We all knew something wasn't right. He has an obsession with tires, stares intensely at you without blinking, and has boundaries issues. He was recently diagnosed as having Aspergers, which I think is a miss diagnosis.

He is a very sweet little boy, don't get me wrong. But there are challenges. For example, he can't name any letters in the alphabet at four years old. I have a two year old nephew who can name at least four different letters by looking at them. Also he can't put on his velcro shoes. At four years old, you should know how to slip them on your feet and strap them down.

Also he does this odd thing where he's in a runners position and won't stop rocking while he keeps intense eye contact. Most kids, or people for that manner, look at you at then other places when talking or whatever. He however always stares relentlessly. I'm not sure if it's just high energy, or what. He also has interesting boundary issues. He is always touching my hair. Not in a "I'm a kid play and yank" way but similar to an adult. It kind of creeps me out. Also, my body type is very curvy so maybe this only happens with me, but he goes "boobies!" and tries to touch me there, and I try to explain it's inappropriate but he keeps trying to do it. I told my boss but she's not to worried. It may just be my paranoia.

He can name all his colors and shapes (even knows the difference between a hexagon and an octagon), but it's hard. He won't let me read to him, he won't sing ABC's or anything with me. In the mornings we let him watch TV while I make snack and if a show comes on he doesn't like he gets so heated. He will cry and when I go to comfort him and change the channel he is so hot from crying that it will feel like he has a fever. Needless to say, I avoid Go Diego Go! I have also a 2 1/2 month old baby and I have to explain to him why he can't go running and screaming when the baby is sleeping and if you sit him down, it can't just be eye level, he has to sit, and explain it, he will be fine, but it's taking longer then other children his age who aren't around young kids. He's such a sweet child. Always saying "I love you miss chelsea" and stuff to that nature, but I don't think that's associated with Aspergers.

So I was wondering if this is Aspergers or a misdiagnosis. Also what are things I can do to help him with the learning situation. Thank you so much! Sorry it's so long I just want to make sure I gave you any information I have.

Try looking at the diagnostic criteria for Asperger's, and see if it matches your experience of the child (http://www.autreat.com/dsm4-aspergers.ht ml).
Asperger's is characterised by difficulties with social interaction (at his age this would manifest as difficulty making friends, not sharing enjoyment with others, no reciprocity, impairments in non-verbal behaviour, etc). You mention that he does stare, but not specifically that he avoids eye contact.
Children with aspergers also display repetitive and stereotyped behaviors (which is what you are describing with the runners position, and obsession with tyres).
For a diagnosis of aspergers, there shouldn't be any delay in language, or age-appropriate skills (such as tying shoes).
So there are some discrepancies between the diagnosis and the information you have given. THat being said, it is likely that this diagnosis was made following clinical interviews, information from parents, observation, etc, and this is not a diagnosis that would be made lightly.
As for teaching a child with Asperger's, I have included an information sheet from the Autism NSW website. The main things to keep in mind are that these children need routine to decrease anxiety, use visual aids when teaching, set clear rules and boundaries that are regularly and equally enforced, and be very clear and structured in your communication - use a calm tone, and present only one idea at a time. Hope this helps :-)

2010-04-26 00:16:42 by chelseaindependent

I work in a daycare part time and I have a four year old boy. We all knew something wasn't right. He has an obsession with tires, stares intensely at you without blinking, and has boundaries issues. He was recently diagnosed as having Aspergers, which I think is a miss diagnosis.

He is a very sweet little boy, don't get me wrong. But there are challenges. For example, he can't name any letters in the alphabet at four years old. I have a two year old nephew who can name at least four different letters by looking at them. Also he can't put on his velcro shoes. At four years old, you should know how to slip them on your feet and strap them down.

Also he does this odd thing where he's in a runners position and won't stop rocking while he keeps intense eye contact. Most kids, or people for that manner, look at you at then other places when talking or whatever. He however always stares relentlessly. I'm not sure if it's just high energy, or what. He also has interesting boundary issues. He is always touching my hair. Not in a "I'm a kid play and yank" way but similar to an adult. It kind of creeps me out. Also, my body type is very curvy so maybe this only happens with me, but he goes "boobies!" and tries to touch me there, and I try to explain it's inappropriate but he keeps trying to do it. I told my boss but she's not to worried. It may just be my paranoia.

He can name all his colors and shapes (even knows the difference between a hexagon and an octagon), but it's hard. He won't let me read to him, he won't sing ABC's or anything with me. In the mornings we let him watch TV while I make snack and if a show comes on he doesn't like he gets so heated. He will cry and when I go to comfort him and change the channel he is so hot from crying that it will feel like he has a fever. Needless to say, I avoid Go Diego Go! I have also a 2 1/2 month old baby and I have to explain to him why he can't go running and screaming when the baby is sleeping and if you sit him down, it can't just be eye level, he has to sit, and explain it, he will be fine, but it's taking longer then other children his age who aren't around young kids. He's such a sweet child. Always saying "I love you miss chelsea" and stuff to that nature, but I don't think that's associated with Aspergers.

So I was wondering if this is Aspergers or a misdiagnosis. Also what are things I can do to help him with the learning situation. Thank you so much! Sorry it's so long I just want to make sure I gave you any information I have.

It certainly sounds like Asperger's Syndrome to me. The rocking he does is a form of autism which is what Asperger's Syndrome is. People who are Aspy often have a few subjects that they are experts at, or they will become obsessed with a subject and then in a few months get bored with that and find a new obsession. He might not only have problems with his shoes, his walk might be off too. The rocking and toughing your hair sounds self soothing, and yes, they can't read body language. They might not understand a joke, or if they tell a joke, they might not know what is offensive about that joke. No, he won't know that boobies offends you, my father in law never understood what offended others, and he never understood change the subject you are offending me, it is like a repeat thing, Yes, this is what Asperger's is. Tv is actually good for them sometimes, it is how they learn to interact with others. Sometimes they can watch people on tv and know a little about how to socialize with others. Yes, you are going to have to explain everything to him 1,000 times, in your best nice, calm, voice, over and over and over again, they have repeat issues. They also get attached to their teachers and doctors and have melt downs if they loose their teacher or doctor. Use search answers on this site, there is a lot of great information on Asperger's Syndrome, and this site also has a mental health section, so if you post questions, also post them there. Well really everyone is different in the capability, inability, and cop-ability of this. This site has a great search for questions section, I learned more about Asperger's there. There is also a mental health section on this site too. They tend to have problems with reading body language and social cues. My husband could have sex, just couldn't handle the relationship. He could hold my hand going into a store, but he couldn't hug me, hugging is face to face. He couldn't kiss me, none of the men in his family could kiss their spouse, that was face to face. He could talk to me if he was looking at a tv, computer, at a restaurant he would look out the window, but he couldn't talk to anyone face to face. He couldn't deal with stress or animosity. If I talked to him, any one talked to him about something stressful, he would just shut down and tune that person out. You have to ask him to do something a million times before it gets done. Don't have a baby, because crying overwhelms them. If I cried, he would totally freak out. If his mother cried his father would leave the house. They don't seem to be able to handle compassion, comfort, sympathy, or empathy. They don't sometimes know what is funny in a joke, or if they are telling a joke they don't understand they are offending you. Offending a person is something my husbands family has issues with. They badger you to death and then when you explode, it is like a drug for them and they exhale and then play the role of the martyr. They are limited to the subjects they can talk about, and if you change a subject, it rattles them. They don't understand stop, shut up, change the subject, you need to stop you are offending me. They really don't get that they are offending you, and they just keep on. My father in law will tell you about an article he read a million times. It doesn't matter that the story is untrue, he read it, so it becomes the gospel truth, and he has to tell you a million times. If you go to his house he will offer you coffee or tea and he keeps offering a million times. It is a repeating issue. My husband doesn't learn from his mistakes, he keeps making them over and over. They sometimes have to do something at the exact same time every day, like eat or watch a tv show, or what ever they do on monday, the do every monday, what ever they do on tuesday, they do every tuesday, and so on. It is just different for each person. My father in law can only talk about 3 subjects, my husband can talk about more. Sometimes they know a lot about a few subjects, sometimes they learn a lot and then they get sick of the subject and become experts on some other subject. I think there are meds to treat it, but sometimes they cause side effects like nightmares. Use search for questions, this site is a blessing. Peace be with you

2010-04-26 00:18:03 by chelseaindependent